Moving is hard on kids even if you are just moving across town to a new Murfreesboro TN home. You don’t have to be relocating to Nashville Tennessee from across the country to impact your children. Parents can get so busy with moving that they don’t notice their kids and how anxious they may be over the move.
Moving means your children will be giving up their familiar surroundings and routines. You may be excited about a new home, but your child may have a lot of anxiety. Some moves are because you are doing well and wish to move into a larger home. But, not all moves are happy ones even for adults. Moves that are the result of job change, divorce, or possibly even a forced sale due to foreclosure or short sale are even more stressful for children. Whatever the reason for the move, take time to help your kids adjust. Even positive moves can be hard on children who don’t “need” a bigger home or understand why they must move and give up the stability and routines they find comforting.
Here are some tips to help your child cope with your move into a new home:
Visit the school your child will be attending and meet with their new teachers and coaches if they will be participating in sports. By taking the time to explain that your child is moving and going to need a little extra attention, it will help ensure that they don’t get lost in the shuffle. Let them know your child’s personality and things that they enjoy. Ask if they can arrange for your child to be seated next to a child who shares similar interests. Teachers want to help your child adjust to their new school and often need your in-put on how to make this happen.
Talk about the move - Children thrive on stability! Before you move, talk about their new home, new school, and surroundings early. Despite what some adults believe, children like to be in the know just like we do! The more they know, the less anxious they will be. Communicate with them and let them share their feelings about the move. Don’t criticize them if they are not happy about the move. Be honest and don’t give them false hope that everything is going to be better and build up false expectations. If you are being forced to move, just be honest and tell them that you will work hard to make the new house their home!
Say Goodbye With Style! Consider having a goodbye party for your child if they are moving away from friends. Even if moving in the same city, your child may realize that they won’t be seeing their friends in the neighborhood every day, or have the same friends in school if they are moving to a new school zone. For party favors, hand out baggies filled with pre-addressed stamped note cards. The kids will LOVE writing notes to your child and your child will LOVE receiving these in their new home!
Capture the Memories! Let your child take pictures of their home, their room, backyard, school, or whatever they want to remember. Once they have captured these memories, create a scrapbook online for them to treasure. I love Snapfish for creating quick scrapbooks online! The photobooks only take a few minutes to create and will be something your child will enjoy looking at for years to come.
Surprise them with a special gift in their new room! Have something special waiting for your child in their closet when they arrive at their new home. Maybe it is a new doll, or that special ball they have been wanting. Whatever you decide, it will make your child’s first night in their room much more fun! They have moved away from everything they found familiar but discovering something wonderful hidden in their new room will certainly help calm their fears!
Remember that your children pick up on your emotions and attitude more than you realize! Try to be positive even if the move is not something you are happy about.
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